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How to Find Magic in a Sink of Dishes

How to Find Magic in a Sink of Dishes - Have you ever been faced by an exceptionally mundane task? Did you know there's some good that come out of that task? Click to see how even a sink of dishes (or a pile of laundry) can boost your creativity.

When I was very young, I loved to wash the dishes.

I don’t know if it was the novelty, or the bubbles, or the “big-kid” feeling of helping my Mom with the chores. But somewhere along the way, the enchantment faded, and it became boring. (And every Mom loves hearing that word, right?)

Our first dishwasher was a thrill to me, and I loathed any dish that couldn’t fit into the dishwasher. Stock pot? Ugh. Crock pot? Seriously. Cast iron skillet? Whose dumb idea was this? Oh whoops. Sorry Mom.

Every once in a while, our dishwasher would break down, and the kids would have to wash dishes again. By hand. Booooo. But as I got older (or maybe more mature, hehe), I realized that there was something magical that would happen while I was washing… my mind was free to wander. As my hands traced familiar paths with the sudsy washcloth, I could daydream.

I had to start setting a notebook, pen, and towel behind me when I washed dishes, because I’d get some of my best ideas then… snippets of song lyrics, ideas for a story, answers to questions I’d been pondering on. Later on, I’d discover the same thing could happen in the shower, or while I was ironing (yes I love ironing!), or folding laundry. Any simple tasks that allowed me to go on autopilot, were great for brainstorming.

Today’s culture values busyness, and we pride ourselves in not having any downtime. But when our minds are constantly going, there’s not much time to let our subconscious go to work. Those moments of clarity come upon waking up, or when we’re in the shower,¬†because those are the rare moments we’re not busy.

So today, instead of being frustrated at the mountain of laundry… look at it as an opportunity. What can you brainstorm while you fold? Have a pen & paper on hand… you may be surprised at the ideas that will come to mind. ūüôā

70+ Ways to be More Creative

70+ Ways to be More Creative | Have you ever felt like you weren't very creative? Or maybe you just want to be MORE creative? Click through to see over 70 ways you can up your creative game!How many times have you heard someone say, “oh I’m not creative… but I wish I was” or “I’m not creative, but my mom/dad/uncle/sister is”?

If you’re anything like me, you’re torn between feeling sorry for them, and wanting to shake them. We’ve put creativity into a tiny, narrow box. If you were to ask someone¬†what creativity is, they’d likely say something like painting, or photography, or writing. Maybe they’d say all 3. But they’re missing out on the big picture… creativity comes in¬†tons of forms… some obvious, and some not so obvious.

For example, if you sit down with your family’s favorite recipes, and you create a menu plan for the next week… you’ve used creative function. Did you put together an outfit and earned you rave compliments? You used creativity! Ever had a child inform you that their teddy bear is a pirate? Or that their pencil is a booger gun? (yes kids are gross!) Or that the box you’ve tried to throw away 6 times is their space shuttle? Creativity!

So those are some of the less obvious ways. But what about the obvious ones?

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Visual

Photography

  • Landscape
  • Portrait
  • Wedding
  • Macro
  • Product
  • Stock
  • Underwater
  • Photojournalism

Painting

  • Watercolor
  • Oil
  • Acrylic
  • Pastel
  • Fresco/Mural
  • Gouache
  • Encaustic

Designing

  • Interiors
  • Theater/movie sets
  • Typeface/font
  • Drawing
  • Jewelry
  • Costume
  • Tattoos

Musical

  • Songwriting
  • Singing
  • Music production
  • Sound engineer
  • Album design

Writing

  • Blogs
  • Books
  • Articles
  • Screenplays
  • Poems

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Fiber arts

  • Knitting
  • Crocheting
  • Spinning
  • Weaving
  • Textile design
  • Batiking/Hand-dying
  • Basketry
  • Beadwork
  • Sewing
  • Quilting
  • Embroidery
  • Applique

Paper crafting

  • Paper making
  • Card making
  • Stamping
  • Quilling
  • Scrapbooking
  • Paper flowers
  • Decoupage
  • Origami
  • Paper mache

Hands-On/Outside the Box

  • Acting
  • Sculpting
  • Woodworking
  • Pottery
  • Florist
  • Cooking
  • Gardening
  • Puttering on cars
  • Food stylist
  • Hair stylist
  • Nail artist
  • Makeup artist
  • Metalworking/Forging
  • Leatherworking
  • Architect
  • Toy design
  • Glass blowing
  • Teaching

For Type-A people who think they’re not creative

Planning/Directing

  • Animation director
  • Play producer
  • Event planning
  • Wedding planning
  • Film director
  • Museum director

Editing

  • Copy editor
  • Music editor
  • Screenplay editor
  • Book editor
  • Photo editor
  • Video editor

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As you can see there is a¬†lot that falls under “creativity”. And this is by no means everything, and there are crossovers between these lists. I included the “type-A” list, because there are things that are considered to be non-creative fields that I consider to be very creative. And there are several on the “outside the box” list that fall in this territory as well. My husband is in mechanical maintenance. Grease monkeys aren’t usually considered to be creative, but I think the ability to look at something and understand how it’s all put together, and how to fix it, and how to improve it is extremely creative.

Architecture is considered an extremely left-brained sort of field… it’s very analytical, and required immense precision when drawing up blueprints and schematics. But the ability to dream up a building concept, and put it down on paper in a way that makes sense for builders is extremely creative also! Some of the finest minds of the Renaissance were strong in fields that are considered to “left brained” and fields that are considered “right brained”, because back then, no one sat children down and told them creativity was narrowly defined. No one told young apprentices that if they were a creative type, they couldn’t do anything mathematical or scientific. And no one told scientists that they couldn’t create.

Imagine telling Leonardo, that because he was a brilliant inventor, that he shouldn’t be capable of drawing or painting.¬†It would never happen, because we know that’s ridiculous. But when it comes to our creativity, we put these sorts of restraints on ourselves. Oh I’m not creative… I’m an accountant, lawyer, doctor, etc.

Nonsense! Get out there and explore… you may be surprised what undiscovered talents you have.

What’s something you’ve always wanted to try?

How to Encourage More Imaginative Play

How to Encourage More Imaginative Play | Pablo Picasso famously pointed out that an artist is simply a child that's never grown up. But how do we keep our kids from losing their creative edge? Click through to read more...If you’ve ever watched Alton Brown in any of his TV cooking shows (or read his books/social media/blog), you may probably have heard Alton Brown discuss his love of multi-taskers (and his distaste for “unitaskers”) in cooking implements.

For example (one I harassed my husband about the other day, ha!) those bear claw meat shredders. They’re big, bulky, and do the same thing you could do with 2 forks or a KitchenAid.

A KitchenAid on the other hand is a multi-tasker. It has a beater attachment, whisk attachment, juicer attachment, food processor attachment, various pasta making attachments, and much more.

When it comes to toys I’m a big fan of toys that encourage imaginative play. These are the multi-taskers of the toy world.¬†Imagine for a moment, the humble cardboard box of so many parenting jokes. And in truth, there’s more reality to it than we want to admit. On Christmas morning, half the fun comes from playing with the wrapping paper all over the floor. Mom & Dad may get a new washing machine, but Junior just got a new space ship, a jail for his misbehaving teddy bear, a boat to explore the piratey sea, and fort to hideout from his stinky sisters. At least until his stinky sisters try to take over the box for their own nefarious purposes.

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So what kind of toys do I look for to encourage imaginative play?

Toys that encourage physical development (including hand-eye coordination)

  • Gardening tools
  • Wagons/Bikes/Scooters
  • Jump ropes
  • Swings
  • Jungle gym
  • See-saw
  • Jacks
  • Pick-up sticks

Toys that encourage creative/imaginative development

  • Scarves
  • Puppets
  • Musical instruments
  • Dress-up clothes/accessories
  • Play dough
  • Art supplies
  • Stuffed animals/dolls
  • Cars/trucks/animals
  • Marble runs
  • Blocks/Legos/Lincoln logs

Toys that encourage sensory development

  • Sandbox
  • Bubbles
  • Play dough
  • Musical instruments
  • Tangle Jr
  • Finger paints
  • Koosh balls

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Toys that encourage intellectual development

  • Puzzles
  • K’nex
  • Pattern blocks
  • Books (okay not technically a toy, but still important!)
  • Bop It/Simon Says
  • Peg board game (like at Cracker Barrel)
  • Blokus board game
  • Just about anything GeoSafari
  • Etch a Sketch

You may have noticed that there’s some definite cross over between some of these. For example, many of the playground equipment items fall under sensory development, as well as physical. Several of the intellectual can also be under creative. And this list is far from comprehensive… you can find a range of ideas by searching for STEM/STEAM toys (Science/Tech/Engineering/(Art)/Math), Melissa & Doug toys, Montessori toys, Waldorf toys, etc.

When I was a kid, humble sheets were turned into forts, castles, pirate ships, clothing, and tepees. Anything was possible! My boys regularly come ask me to turn their blankets into capes, so they can be pirates or superheroes (I’m noticing a generational pirate obsession… arrrrgggh!), and the girls love to be princess or superheroes as well.

 

What was your favorite creative toy when you were a kid? Share it in the comments below!

Don’t Pressure Your Kids to Live Out Your Dreams

Don't Pressure Your Kids to Live Out Your Dreams | I get it, you've got big dreams for your kids... but there's a possibility they don't share those dreams... what to do?

On a 13 on Thursday post, I created a list of 13 ways to build creativity in your children, and decided that it would make for a great series! This is the 3rd post, based on the 3rd item on the list (creating an art box). Click here to see all of them!

It happens to the best of us, but this one is huge. It starts with a dream you had as a child, or young adult… a dream that never came to fruition. And maybe it’s legitimately too late for you to pursue it (can’t be a child prodigy past a certain age), or maybe society has told you that you¬†shouldn’t pursue it (guess how many artists have been told that?!)… but either way, you’ve given up.

But then you had a kid (or 5!)…

And suddenly a spark of hope returns. You couldn’t be a world class athlete/child prodigy/famous singer/dancer in the New York City Ballet… but your kid could! Right?

Maybe.

But if they do, it should be their choice right? 

Lest you think I’m just picking on you, I’m so guilty of this too… I sing. A lot. I’ve sang for charity functions, I’ve sang on the radio, I’ve sang for my church… I even tried to record a demo once, but as it turns out singing with wood dust in the air vents isn’t easy. Note to self: Don’t record when the studio has been under the construction…

Anyway… I sing. So naturally, I assumed that all of my offspring would not only be musically inclined, but incredibly gifted (because your kids are supposed to be even better than you!). Not so much. At least at the moment. While there’s plenty of time for something to develop, one of my children is frequently so off-key I wonder if she’s heard the same song we did. And that may change later… or it may never change. And that’s okay.

But it took time for me to come to that realization… I was super aggravated that I couldn’t get her to sing the tune correctly, or clap on beat, or anything. But the fact is, if that’s not her gifting, her gifting lies elsewhere, and by focusing on that skill set, I’m potentially robbing her of her true greatness, and I don’t want that to be my legacy.

So hang in there… your kids may not be doing the things you wanted to do when you were a kid, but that just means they have their own special place in the world. And you, yes¬†you have the very special honor of helping them find out what that is.

Don’t Put Unnecessary Limitations On Your Children

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On a¬†13 on Thursday post, I created a list of 13 ways to build creativity in your children, and decided that it would make for a¬†great series! So this¬†is the 1st post, based on the first item on the list (not placing unnecessary limitations on your children)… next will be the 2nd item, and so on. Enjoy!

Recently I saw a post about a sustainable plastic wrap¬†alternative, made from beeswax… cool huh? Having never run into this sort of product, I started reading the comments to see if anyone had used it/liked it (they had!)… but then I found a comment that stopped me in my tracks.

People were posting their non-traditional uses for this Bee’s Wrap, and one lady said that her 6 year old son (who has some kind of condition that affects his coordination) uses the wrap to stabilize his knife when he’s helping her cut vegetables for dinner.

Most of the responses were encouraging, but there was one lady who replied in¬†horror that this woman would allow her son to use a knife, because children shouldn’t be in the kitchen helping at that age.

Stop right there.¬†(Generalizations ahead, not applying to¬†all persons… just a very,¬†very, large number.)

Did you know that we have an entire generation that doesn’t know how to balance their own budget, because no one’s ever taught them to manage money?

We have a generation that doesn’t know how to cook, because they’ve grown up on pre-packaged, microwaved, or fast food.

We have a generation that doesn’t know how to make a bed, do laundry, or even hold a civil conversation.¬†

We have adults, who are ill-prepared for¬†being adults, to the point that books are being written to teach someone how to be an adult. And why? Because we’ve created a culture that enables this mentality. No one loses games…. everyone gets a trophy! Children can’t play in their backyard, without nasty neighbors calling social services to claim neglect. No one’s precious little angels are held accountable in school… blame the teachers! And it goes on and on.

Let’s travel back in time about 200 years…

Children had chores… and they didn’t even get an allowance. Shockingly, they were expected to do chores as a member of the family.

They collected eggs.

They milked cows (or goats).

They helped in the garden.

They sewed. (Psssst… they weren’t using “safety needles”)

Children as young as 6 were learning to knit, and those too young to knit were carding wool.

And you don’t even have to go back 200 years to see this… click here to see a picture of Shirley Temple knitting as a young girl… I have friends who have farms, and children still collect eggs, and milk cows, and such.

So you may be curious what this has to do with creativity…

This woman was shocked that someone would allow their less-able child to learn to cook, when she wouldn’t allow her fully-able children to help her in the kitchen. But that’s not a limitation of the child’s skill… it’s a limitation that she arbitrarily placed on them.¬†

Can every child help at that age? No… Should they cook unsupervised at that age? No…

But is it true that no child can help at that age? Certainly not. The very best training happens at a young age, and it starts with attitude. Teach them that the worst boundaries they ever encounter, will be the ones they allow to be placed on them. 

Running a Business With School-Aged Children: Boundaries & Mutual Respect

Running a Business With School-Aged Children: Boundaries & Mutual Respect

For the month of February, I‚Äôll be chatting about different ways to run a business when you‚Äôve got kiddos. The first week was running a business with a baby, the second week was running a business with a toddler, and today I’ll be talking about will be school-aged kids.

In general I’ve had the typical parenting experience… I’ve been been barfed on, pooped on, and drooled on. I’ve had peanut butter smeared on just about every dark shirt I’ve ever owned, and I’ve learned that if you cheer when your toddler falls on their butt, they’re much less likely to freak out.

But the one thing I have¬†never dealt with, is a child in the bathroom with me while I’m bathing or peeing. Watch the video and find out why. ūüėČ

 

Like I said in the video… I don’t want my children to think the world revolves around them, but I want them to know that they come before my business. Additionally, I want to be providing a good quality example of what entrepreneurship looks like for my children. Not only am I raising future adults, but I hope that I’m raising future entrepreneurs, and I would want them creating healthy boundaries too.

 

What are your tips for creating boundaries with your children?